Oral Sex

Oral Sex
by: Dr. Dennis W. Neder

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Hello Doc,

I’m sure you've been asked this question before. My girlfriend does not want to perform oral sex on me. Is there a way I can get her to change her mind? I mean, ever since the day she told me, I've been fine with it. I told her I had no problem with it. And she doesn’t know that I feel this way. I much rather have her do it than not do it. So is there a way to get her to change her mind at all?

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Hello!

You bet there is.

First of all, you need to come clean about your desire for oral sex. Since you've told her otherwise (in effect, lying to her) she doesn't get the opportunity to deal with her own issues surrounding it.

Explain to her that you knew (or sensed) that she wasn't into it and; rather than creating an issue around it, you chose to tell her a little white lie. Now that you're relationship is going well you want to start expanding up your sexual scope to include other fun sex like oral sex, etc.

You should also explain to her that while it's not a deal breaker, you want more variety in your sex and that you'll help her learn to be really good at it. More important, it'll be fun!

At the same time, get her to talk about what she'd like to see more of too. Just as you grow your relationship to be closer and better, you need to focus on doing the same thing with your sex life.

As I constantly tell people, bad relationships that have great sex will continue to survive, but good relationships with bad sex almost always fail.

It's important to have your needs met and to meet hers as well.

Best regards...

About The Author
Dr. Neder is known around the world as a tough, but fair relationship expert, dealing with all sorts of dating, sex and relationship issues from a man's perspective. Having written 3 books ("Being a Man in a Woman's World™" series) and is working on others, hundreds of articles, been on hundreds of radio and TV shows, he is funny, direct and intuitive.

Do you have a burning question that needs an answer? Are you a man that wants to better experiences with women, or a woman that wants to better understand men? To learn more, go to http://beingaman.com.

Bridal Shower Invitations

Bridal Shower Invitations
by: Angela Oliver

A bridal shower is a great event leading up to the wedding where wedding attendants offer gifts and celebration to the bride and groom. There are lots of things you can bring to a bridal shower to have a wonderful time. The bridal shower invitations themselves are a huge part of the shower. But there are some traditional guidelines for invitations that should be followed. The bridal shower is typically thrown by the maid of honor, unless other arrangements have been made. Whoever the host may be, it is important to be familiar with the traditions.

Who should be invited to the bridal shower? A bridal shower can be just a women’s event or can be co-ed. It is up to the bride ultimately and whoever is hosting the shower should check with the bride. Typically the bride will invite all the women who are invited to the wedding, as well as the bridesmaids, mothers, and grandmothers.

Where should be the location of the bridal shower? Typically the shower is held at the house of the maid of honor, or at a restaurant. Again, the host should check with the bride to see what is most convenient for guests and family. Some showers are long distance, where everyone meets without the guest of honor who may be in another location. The guests call the bride and describe the gifts and then wrap them up to await the brides arrival before the wedding. If the bridal shower is to be held at a restaurant, previous arrangements should be made with guests about payment, and with the restaurant for reservations.

Should you request an RSVP for the bridal shower? It depends on the type of party and type of setting. If it is important to have an accurate head count for the caterer, and RSVP is necessary. If it is more casual type of shower, RSVP may not be needed. This is completely up to the host.

When should the bridal shower be held? Bridal showers are typically held two weeks before the wedding. However, with people having to travel long distances, it is sometime more convenient to have the shower a day or two before the wedding so everyone is able to attend. Having the bridal shower sometime before the wedding gives the bride and bridesmaids more time to prepare the week before the wedding.

What is the bridal shower theme? There are lots of themes for bridal showers. And invitations can be made to incorporate any of these themes. Whether it be lingerie, kitchen, hardware, there are invitations to coordinate with any theme. The theme of the invitation should also reflect the style and personality of the bride.

For the maid of honor, the bridal shower can be the biggest task before the wedding. All these factors are very important when choosing invitations for the bridal shower. Choosing the right bridal shower invitations that coordinate with the theme, and sending them at the right time is a great way to start a perfect bridal shower. And choosing all the right information to include in the invitation is just as important. And sending them to the right people will make the bride happy.

About The Author

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Planning For Your First Date

Planning For Your First Date
by: Terry Leslie

You can easily plan your date by having the following in mind…

Why?
Where?
When?
What?
How?

We will now go through each of these in detail.

Why?

What are your motives? Were you looking for a quickie? If this is the case, best not to tell her upon first approach. General statements like “I’d like to get to know each other better” means that one thing can lead to another.

But, if you would like to have a longer term relationship with this woman, being more specific and sensitive works best. Go ahead and point out her individual qualities you admire and love, and not focusing just on her looks. Perhaps it is her humor, her kindness to people etc. She will feel that you have then taken the time to really get to know her a little better. This will really impress her.

Where?

This will really depend on both your and her motives the moment you met. If the both of you are in it for the quickie, then it is probably mutually agreed its best you head straight for a hotel room or one or the others home.

However, it’s more than likely that the two of you are probably more looking to know a bit about each other first before sex enters the equation. On your first date, it’s probably best to meet up at somewhere more public so she feels both at ease and safe. A popular restaurant, a café, or a park is probably best.

When?

This really depends on the women and what she is comfortable with. If she is more daring, then the early night is perhaps best for an intimate setting. If she is shy and not used to meeting guys, then a daytime date is probably better.

What?

This depends on her interest as well as yours. Any mutual interest is probably best as the both of you are then comfortable with the setting and activity. It could be bowling, a comedy show, horse riding, ice skating pool, a movie etc.

How?

Most women don’t like to give you her home address until they get to know you better. So do not push to know where she lives.

Ask her if she would be more comfortable meeting you at the place of the date or you picking her up at her place. It is likely better to meet her there, particularly on your first date, not only because she will feel safer but also in case it doesn’t work out and you can end the night if all did not work according to plan. Can you imagine the awkwardness of having to drive her home in silence from the date location?

In the mean time, GOOD LUCK!

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About The Author
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training.

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